How to keep the romance alive
We don’t need to tell you that keeping romance alive for a lifetime is hard. You know it. You’re living it every single day. Keeping up with the demands of work, children, the household, other family and friends. We get caught up in everything that needs to be down and our relationship comes last.
And we’re here to say – that’s okay. It’s normal and everyone is going through it. We all have doubts, fears, expectations that aren’t met and compromises that are hard to reach. If anyone tells you they’re not going through it – they’re lying. Or they’re in a relationship with an inanimate object.
But just because everyone is going through it, doesn’t mean that you have to suffer in silence. Like everything in life, the more you work at something the better it is going to be. Relationships can be worked on, a little bit every day can add up to a happier and more fulfilled life.
For some tips, we turned to the experts. One of the best resources out there is the amazing Relationships Australia website. It is understanding, non-judgmental and FREE. No matter the type of relationship you are in, there are tips for you to apply to your situation. I especially like this extensive list here about “How you can improve your relationship?” It is an extensive resource and includes advice like
- Express affection and give your partner thoughtful little surprises like a small gift, a flower from the garden on their bedside table, a favourite treat, an unpacked dishwasher or a special meal.
- Develop common interests, though allow time for independent interests as well.
- Listen to your partner and communicate your needs. Don't wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on for you.
Another great resource is their worksheet on communication. This one is a great reminder for when you really CAN’T listen to hubby talk about his camping gear one more time
- Talk about what is happening in your lives, the good and the not-so-good, and how it affects you. Talk about small things and big matters; about something funny you saw or heard; about how you’d like to spend your birthday; or where you‘d like to go for a holiday one day and your concerns about the children
If you think he’s found your last nerve with his latest contraption or not-funny meme, just remember - it’s this communicating about things that don’t matter that you’re practicing to communicate about things that do.
What are your tips or resources when you need a little support? Life long relationships are a long road – don’t think you need to do it alone.